Along with its wonders, life will present all of us with difficult challenges, injuries, disappointments, disillusionment, losses, dangers, and other blows to our sense of self and/or the people we love. These life-experiences may be reflected emotionally in low self-esteem, sadness, heartbreak, shock, anxiety and other painful emotions, any of which may in turn become complicated by feelings of invalidity, shame, toxicity, or guilt. When feelings (perhaps especially painful feelings) become saturated in invalidity, shame, or guilt they are more likely to give rise to clinical depression, anxiety disorders (e.g., panic attacks), or other problems.
In your psychotherapy with me, I will aim to explore with you and understand the life-difficulties you have faced, and currently face, in relationships with partners, family or other loved-ones, in your employment or professional setting, and/or any other region of your life-world.
My focus will always be on your personal experience of these difficulties from your unique perspective on yourself, others, and the world, and the feelings your perspective evokes.
Again, often one's perspective is shaped by pain-producing convictions about oneself, like "There's something wrong with me" or "Everything I touch turns to shit", and these convictions need to be brought out into the sun where we can see and challenge them together. Only then can the grip of such painful views be loosened, liberating you to see and feel genuine joy or sadness, peace or anxiety, free of insidious feelings of shame, guilt and the like.
We can work together to:
Cope with the problems that confront you in your life, for example break-ups or other conflicts in your personal or professional relationships, social isolation, or traumatic loss of a loved one
Grapple with the painful feelings that may come with these events like hurt, loneliness, fear and sadness
Understand and challenge the degrading convictions that you may hold about yourself like "I am a failure," "No one cares about me."
Help with low-esteem, arresting self-criticism, emotional flatness, isolation, self-destructiveness, compulsiveness, and other feelings and behaviors that such degrading convictions can produce.